Author: LaDonna Remy

I am a trauma and attachment therapist, who works in a private practice setting. My passion is in exploring and supporting exploration of the human condition. I love writing, reading, learning, exploring nature, and spending time in connection with those I love. My blog, Perspective on Trauma. shares thoughts on a variety of topics including social justice, emotional well-being, trauma and attachment, grief and loss, and moving forward. I am hopeful you will find something that speaks to you here. I welcome your thoughts and comments.

Attachment & Relationship, Defenses & Constructs25 Comments

Reflective Functioning and Relational Trust

February 26, 2022March 5, 2022 LaDonna Remy

“The whole idea of compassion is based on a keen awareness of the interdependence of all these living beings which are all part of one another, and all involved in one another”. Thomas Merton Our ability to both experience and … Continue reading Reflective Functioning and Relational Trust

Defenses & Constructs49 Comments

The Power of Belief, and its Impact on Self, Other and Larger Society.

February 5, 2022February 5, 2022 LaDonna Remy

I’ve missed connecting with everyone this month. I’ve allowed myself to get sidetracked and haven’t taken time for the joy of reading and sharing. As I settle in this morning, I find my brain still distracted by work and the … Continue reading The Power of Belief, and its Impact on Self, Other and Larger Society.

Defenses & Constructs, Spirituality46 Comments

The Wolves Within. Wisdom for 2022.

December 29, 2021January 5, 2022 LaDonna Remy

As we enter 2022, I (like many) am thinking of the state our world and committed to continuing to navigate it with some sense of inner calm. I am reminded of The Parable, The Wolves Within also known as The … Continue reading The Wolves Within. Wisdom for 2022.

Attachment & Relationship, Grief & Loss33 Comments

Moments of Meeting, in The Tragic Gap.

December 5, 2021 LaDonna Remy

I carry your heart with me. E.E. Cummings Please note, this post may not be shared or reblogged without permission of this writer. Charlie came to me in the Tragic Gap. The Place Parker Palmer describes as ” the space … Continue reading Moments of Meeting, in The Tragic Gap.

Trauma Recovery43 Comments

The Window of Tolerance. A Model for Emotional Regulation.

November 5, 2021November 18, 2021 LaDonna Remy

“Every time you are tempted to react in the same old way, ask if you want to be a prisoner of the past or a pioneer of the future.” – Deepak Chopra There is a place within each of us that … Continue reading The Window of Tolerance. A Model for Emotional Regulation.

Attachment & Relationship35 Comments

Resonance in Attachment, The Power of And.

October 5, 2021October 5, 2021 LaDonna Remy

“You think, because one and one make two, that you understand two. But, to truly comprehend the nature of two, you must first understand . . . And”. Rumi. The “And” in Rumi’s deeply moving quote, understood from an attachment … Continue reading Resonance in Attachment, The Power of And.

Grief & Loss, Spirituality53 Comments

The True Self: Resting in Awareness.

September 7, 2021October 5, 2021 LaDonna Remy

As I woke this morning, I re-realized that I passed my self-designated date to post on Perspective on Trauma. Like many other months I had a specific post in mind and spent time gathering supportive resources for my monthly article. … Continue reading The True Self: Resting in Awareness.

Defenses & Constructs, Personality38 Comments

The Bridge: Friedman’s Fables

August 5, 2021 LaDonna Remy

This month I have chosen to share an excerpt from Friedman’s Fables. His thought provoking and symbolic stories, found in the book Friedman’s Fables, encompass the many complexities and dilemmas of human relationship. The fables, ambiguous in nature, are designed … Continue reading The Bridge: Friedman’s Fables

Attachment & Relationship63 Comments

“Shake the Sugar Tree”, Creating Illusion for Personal Gain.

July 1, 2021August 5, 2021 LaDonna Remy

Standing in line at a local coffee shop, even safely masked and distanced, I (along with anyone else in proximity) overheard what seemed like ill-fated advice. A group of 3 women ahead of me (maybe in their mid-twenties) one now … Continue reading “Shake the Sugar Tree”, Creating Illusion for Personal Gain.

Attachment & Relationship61 Comments

Relational Rupture and Repair. The Art of Apology.

June 4, 2021June 17, 2021 LaDonna Remy

The importance of accountability (owning mistakes and shortcomings) can’t be understated in creating emotional safety in relationship. While this makes solid intellectual sense, it can be a difficult concept to practice. It is likely we have all experienced apology without … Continue reading Relational Rupture and Repair. The Art of Apology.