Childhood Shame, Self-Worth, and The Implications for Adult Relationships.

October 5, 2026 LaDonna Remy

The messages children receive about their worth can follow them into adult relationships. This article explores the connection between shame-based parenting, internalized feelings of inadequacy, and vulnerability to mistreatment—and the possibility of healing, interrupting generational patterns, and recognizing a worth that was always there. Continue reading Childhood Shame, Self-Worth, and The Implications for Adult Relationships.

Addiction, Attachment & Relationship10 Comments

Healing Through Compassion: Navigating Addiction and Relationships

August 5, 2026 LaDonna Remy

“The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image.” — Thomas Merton There are few workdays in my office when addiction isn’t part of the conversation. … Continue reading Healing Through Compassion: Navigating Addiction and Relationships

Attachment & Relationship18 Comments

Becoming:The Story of You.

May 5, 2026 LaDonna Remy

This morning, I am reflecting on a conversation I recently had with an undergraduate student who is on her journey toward becoming a therapist. Like many of my colleagues, I was glad to make time for this interview and feel … Continue reading Becoming:The Story of You.

Attachment & Relationship25 Comments

Grace in Personal Relationship: A Healing Balm for Separation.

November 5, 2025November 5, 2025 LaDonna Remy

In a world that often feels fueled by outrage, grace has become a quiet act of resistance. It asks us to pause, to see the person beneath the opinion, to listen before defending, to stay open when separation feels easier. This reflection explores how grace, as Gabor Maté describes through the lens of “options,” offers us a way back to one another, and to ourselves. Continue reading Grace in Personal Relationship: A Healing Balm for Separation.

Attachment & Relationship26 Comments

Interdependence and Independance: Reflections for July 2025.

July 6, 2025August 20, 2025 LaDonna Remy

As we mark our country’s independence this July, it invites us to reflect on what true independence means for each of us—both personally and collectively. True independence includes self-awareness, resilience, and the ability to choose how we navigate our lives … Continue reading Interdependence and Independance: Reflections for July 2025.

Attachment & Relationship, Social Justice20 Comments

Lack of Trust in Self and Others: Implications for Safety and Advocacy.

October 5, 2024 LaDonna Remy

The ability to trust our own judgement and awareness of when to seek guidance is crucial to a sense of security and overall safety. Having this balance aids us in many ways but most importantly, it provides an internal sense … Continue reading Lack of Trust in Self and Others: Implications for Safety and Advocacy.

Attachment & Relationship, Spirituality50 Comments

With New Eyes

August 27, 2024 LaDonna Remy

It has been over two years since last sharing on WordPress. I have missed being here and have appreciated staying connected with you through your words and learning from your collective wisdom. Thank you to those of you who have … Continue reading With New Eyes

Attachment & Relationship32 Comments

Death by One Thousand Cuts

June 5, 2022April 25, 2023 LaDonna Remy

“Death by one thousand cuts” is described as, a form of torture and human execution which was utilized in China (between 900 to 1905). It entailed the strategic cutting (described as slicing) of the tortured toward a lingering and pending … Continue reading Death by One Thousand Cuts

Attachment & Relationship15 Comments

Rebuilding Trust in Relationship and The Role of Personal Integrity.

May 5, 2022May 5, 2022 LaDonna Remy

The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives”. Esther Perel. Over the last year my practice has seen a significant increase in individuals seeking support after infidelity. For those impacted, this is a heartbreaking and angry making … Continue reading Rebuilding Trust in Relationship and The Role of Personal Integrity.

Attachment & Relationship, Defenses & Constructs25 Comments

Reflective Functioning and Relational Trust

February 26, 2022March 5, 2022 LaDonna Remy

“The whole idea of compassion is based on a keen awareness of the interdependence of all these living beings which are all part of one another, and all involved in one another”. Thomas Merton Our ability to both experience and … Continue reading Reflective Functioning and Relational Trust

Perspective on Trauma

Building Perspective on Trauma, Loss, Attachment, Familial Pain, and Moving Forward: LaDonna Remy, MSW, LICSW

Category: Attachment & Relationship