This morning, I want to offer an adaptation of a beautiful meditation found in Thank You Universe: A Powerful Morning Prayer of Gratitude, Alignment and Receiving—Joe Dispenza, a fan-made meditation shared by Vibrant Life Fan Made Meditations (2025). The themes … Continue reading Invisible Hands: A Gentle Meditation in Gratitude, Trust, and Surrender.
Betrayal trauma often leaves survivors navigating not only the injury of harm, but the collapse of trust in relationships that once felt safe. This article explores the ways in which betrayal complicates the healing process, the protective defenses that often emerge in response to trauma, and the many pressures surrounding forgiveness.
Healing is not about meeting an external expectation, it is about reclaiming safety, agency, and the freedom to define one’s own path forward. Continue reading Beyond Forgiveness: Healing From the Wound of Betrayal.
In times of collective unease, many nervous systems remain in a heightened state, absorbing fear, injustice, and uncertainty without adequate opportunity for repair. This reflection explores empathetic distress, the point at which care becomes overwhelming, and how regulation, boundaries, and compassion can help restore agency without minimizing the unequal realities of suffering. Continue reading Collective Unease: Empathetic Distress and the Practice of Compassion.
As a therapist in today’s treatment climate, I work with many clients seeking recovery from narcissistic abuse. Terms like narcissism, gaslighting, and love bombing have become common in everyday language, yet for survivors, these words represent more than terminology. They … Continue reading The Illusion of Tomorrow: Future Faking in Narcissistic Abuse.
The term gaslight is both overused and misused in today’s society. It has become a buzzword utilized to describe ordinary disagreements when in fact it is part of serious mental health conditions and is highly synonymous with abusive behavior. It … Continue reading Living in The Gas Light: Understanding it’s Utilization in Narcissistic Abuse.
“Every time you are tempted to react in the same old way, ask if you want to be a prisoner of the past or a pioneer of the future.” – Deepak Chopra There is a place within each of us that … Continue reading The Window of Tolerance. A Model for Emotional Regulation.
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Holidays ain’t what they used to be when you were a kid. Particularly, if you ended up in the military and spent some of your formative years in a war zone like the Vietnam War. I could not celebrate Thanksgiving… Continue reading Holidays are ‘downers’ for some of us vets
“We suffer from society’s shallow understanding. Disclosing one’s assault is not an admission of personal failure. Instead, the victim has done us the favor of alerting us to danger in the community. Openness should be embraced”. Chanel Miller. It is … Continue reading Removing Shame: “Know My Name” by Chanel Miller.
The pain in our world feels both big and broad today. As, I watched the morning news another young man has lost his life in police custody and another story surfaces of a young man who lost his life to … Continue reading Desensitization, Kindling for Emotional Defense.
I can’t sit still. That is crazy. If I sit still; I will feel. I will feel the pain of my complicated life. A life that began with the person or people in charge who were not able to sit … Continue reading Running From Still
Perspective on Trauma 