Author: LaDonna Remy

I am a trauma and attachment therapist, who works in a private practice setting. My passion is in exploring and supporting exploration of the human condition. I love writing, reading, learning, exploring nature, and spending time in connection with those I love. My blog, Perspective on Trauma. shares thoughts on a variety of topics including social justice, emotional well-being, trauma and attachment, grief and loss, and moving forward. I am hopeful you will find something that speaks to you here. I welcome your thoughts and comments.

Attachment & Relationship29 Comments

Death by One Thousand Cuts

June 5, 2022April 25, 2023 LaDonna Remy

“Death by one thousand cuts” is described as, a form of torture and human execution which was utilized in China (between 900 to 1905). It entailed the strategic cutting (described as slicing) of the tortured toward a lingering and pending … Continue reading Death by One Thousand Cuts

Attachment & Relationship15 Comments

Rebuilding Trust in Relationship and The Role of Personal Integrity.

May 5, 2022May 5, 2022 LaDonna Remy

The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives”. Esther Perel. Over the last year my practice has seen a significant increase in individuals seeking support after infidelity. For those impacted, this is a heartbreaking and angry making … Continue reading Rebuilding Trust in Relationship and The Role of Personal Integrity.

Defenses & Constructs39 Comments

Personal Integrity, Honesty, and Trust.

April 5, 2022April 5, 2022 LaDonna Remy

“Integrity is telling myself the truth. And honesty is telling the truth to other people”. Spencer Johnson “Every lie is two lies. The lie we tell others and the lie we tell ourselves to justify it”. Robert Brault If you … Continue reading Personal Integrity, Honesty, and Trust.

Attachment & Relationship, Defenses & Constructs25 Comments

Reflective Functioning and Relational Trust

February 26, 2022March 5, 2022 LaDonna Remy

“The whole idea of compassion is based on a keen awareness of the interdependence of all these living beings which are all part of one another, and all involved in one another”. Thomas Merton Our ability to both experience and … Continue reading Reflective Functioning and Relational Trust

Defenses & Constructs49 Comments

The Power of Belief, and its Impact on Self, Other and Larger Society.

February 5, 2022February 5, 2022 LaDonna Remy

I’ve missed connecting with everyone this month. I’ve allowed myself to get sidetracked and haven’t taken time for the joy of reading and sharing. As I settle in this morning, I find my brain still distracted by work and the … Continue reading The Power of Belief, and its Impact on Self, Other and Larger Society.

Defenses & Constructs, Spirituality46 Comments

The Wolves Within. Wisdom for 2022.

December 29, 2021January 5, 2022 LaDonna Remy

As we enter 2022, I (like many) am thinking of the state our world and committed to continuing to navigate it with some sense of inner calm. I am reminded of The Parable, The Wolves Within also known as The … Continue reading The Wolves Within. Wisdom for 2022.

Attachment & Relationship, Grief & Loss30 Comments

Moments of Meeting, in The Tragic Gap.

December 5, 2021 LaDonna Remy

I carry your heart with me. E.E. Cummings Please note, this post may not be shared or reblogged without permission of this writer. Charlie came to me in the Tragic Gap. The Place Parker Palmer describes as ” the space … Continue reading Moments of Meeting, in The Tragic Gap.

Trauma Recovery43 Comments

The Window of Tolerance. A Model for Emotional Regulation.

November 5, 2021November 18, 2021 LaDonna Remy

“Every time you are tempted to react in the same old way, ask if you want to be a prisoner of the past or a pioneer of the future.” – Deepak Chopra There is a place within each of us that … Continue reading The Window of Tolerance. A Model for Emotional Regulation.

Attachment & Relationship35 Comments

Resonance in Attachment, The Power of And.

October 5, 2021October 5, 2021 LaDonna Remy

“You think, because one and one make two, that you understand two. But, to truly comprehend the nature of two, you must first understand . . . And”. Rumi. The “And” in Rumi’s deeply moving quote, understood from an attachment … Continue reading Resonance in Attachment, The Power of And.