Author: LaDonna Remy

I am a trauma and attachment therapist, who works in a private practice setting. My passion is in exploring and supporting exploration of the human condition. I love writing, reading, learning, exploring nature, and spending time in connection with those I love. My blog, Perspective on Trauma. shares thoughts on a variety of topics including social justice, emotional well-being, trauma and attachment, grief and loss, and moving forward. I am hopeful you will find something that speaks to you here. I welcome your thoughts and comments.

Attachment & Relationship25 Comments

Grace in Personal Relationship: A Healing Balm for Separation.

November 5, 2025November 5, 2025 LaDonna Remy

In a world that often feels fueled by outrage, grace has become a quiet act of resistance. It asks us to pause, to see the person beneath the opinion, to listen before defending, to stay open when separation feels easier. This reflection explores how grace, as Gabor Maté describes through the lens of “options,” offers us a way back to one another, and to ourselves. Continue reading Grace in Personal Relationship: A Healing Balm for Separation.

Defenses & Constructs3 Comments

The Power of Belief

October 5, 2025December 10, 2025 LaDonna Remy

One evening, a man returned home and calmly announced to his family and neighbors: “I am dead.” Naturally, they immediately challenged him with sensible arguments: he walks, breathes, and thinks, dead men do none of these things. But none of … Continue reading The Power of Belief

Social Justice, Spirituality15 Comments

Integrity as Compass: Gandhi’s Wisdom for Our Time

September 5, 2025 LaDonna Remy

“Your beliefs become your thoughts, your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your values, your values become your destiny.” – Mahatma Gandhi As Gandhi reminds us, integrity begins quietly … Continue reading Integrity as Compass: Gandhi’s Wisdom for Our Time

Trauma Recovery26 Comments

The Illusion of Tomorrow: Future Faking in Narcissistic Abuse.

August 5, 2025August 19, 2025 LaDonna Remy

As a therapist in today’s treatment climate, I work with many clients seeking recovery from narcissistic abuse. Terms like narcissism, gaslighting, and love bombing have become common in everyday language, yet for survivors, these words represent more than terminology. They … Continue reading The Illusion of Tomorrow: Future Faking in Narcissistic Abuse.

Attachment & Relationship26 Comments

Interdependence and Independance: Reflections for July 2025.

July 6, 2025August 20, 2025 LaDonna Remy

As we mark our country’s independence this July, it invites us to reflect on what true independence means for each of us—both personally and collectively. True independence includes self-awareness, resilience, and the ability to choose how we navigate our lives … Continue reading Interdependence and Independance: Reflections for July 2025.

Defenses & Constructs40 Comments

The Liar’s Paradox. The Implications of Dishonesty and Need for it’s Counterpart Honesty.

May 5, 2025May 7, 2025 LaDonna Remy

This morning, I woke to the lyrics from Jelly Roll’s soulful song LIAR. It wasn’t playing anywhere in my space, but was seemingly on repeat in my brain. Specifically the soul reaching words, “I know you ain’t nothing but a … Continue reading The Liar’s Paradox. The Implications of Dishonesty and Need for it’s Counterpart Honesty.

Grief & Loss28 Comments

The Importance in Processing Experiences of Grief and Loss.

April 5, 2025April 7, 2025 LaDonna Remy

To speak of sorrow; works upon it. Moves it from its crouched place, barring the way to and from the soul’s hall. To Speak of Sorrow, by Denise Levertov This beautiful poem by Denise Levertov, captures the essence and importance … Continue reading The Importance in Processing Experiences of Grief and Loss.

Defenses & Constructs17 Comments

The Precarious Nature of Blinders.

March 5, 2025 LaDonna Remy

Psychological defense is constructed to protect us. In the beginning, during its original Constuction, it does. Through time it grows, doing its job, until it becomes a barrier to seeing what needs to be seen. In the process of recovering … Continue reading The Precarious Nature of Blinders.

Social Justice27 Comments

Common Humanity

February 5, 2025February 18, 2025 LaDonna Remy

We saw him, a young man of middle eastern descent likely in his mid-teens, walking along the dark highway toward an unknown destination. It was well past midnight, on that warm August night, and I worried when I saw him … Continue reading Common Humanity