I can’t sit still. That is crazy. If I sit still; I will feel. I will feel the pain of my complicated life. A life that began with the person or people in charge who were not able to sit … Continue reading Running From Still
“If I stay awake I won’t have nightmares”. “If I keep busy, I won’t think about the bad things that have happened to me”. “I can’t close my eyes, because If I do something bad will happen”. “If I stay awake, I will see if anything is about to happen to me”. These are just a few of the thoughts that may resonate with a person (adult or child) who has been diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and whose sense of safety in the world has been shaken. There are as many cognitive combinations as there are individuals. … Continue reading Sleep and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
It is painful to be seen. This very truth places its foot right in front of healing. For most of us when we think of exposing our truths (the very things most of us have spent a life time running … Continue reading Courage: Perspective on Shame
I hurt for my loved one. I hurt for their children. I hurt for the spouse who no longer attends to the relationship. My loved one is blind to what they are doing to themselves, their children, their spouse, and … Continue reading The holidays and The Addict: A family members perspective.
I knew I loved her, but I knew I had lost her. She was different, now. Gone was the laughter, the warmth, the very joy of life. She seemed distracted and preoccupied all the time. Never present. Hurtful, reactive words … Continue reading Loss to Addiction: A common painful story
It is not essential that you do not make mistakes. It is essential that you do. Learn from them, grow from them, do not repeat them, repair with others if they will allow this, forgive them if they cannot, and … Continue reading Every new day brings opportunity!
The darkest moment of your darkest day. This is the moment that defined your belief in you, your sense of safety in this world, the way you measure your worth. It is the moment that causes you to cope (whatever … Continue reading In that moment; a belief was born about your worth.
Recovery from trauma and loss is a process. There is no exact path or perfect recipe. There is a process. That process is unique to you and laden with your own memories, thoughts, feelings, and specific needs. It is this … Continue reading One Step at a Time!
Welcome to Perspective on Trauma. Continue reading Welcome to Perspective on Trauma