Grief’s unique Hold

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While there are commonalities in experience, grief’s manifestation is unique to each person. There is not one other living being who will understand exactly how you feel or the subtleties of your unique connection. No other person; knew your person, your pet, or your situation in the exact way you did ( and do). They do not know the many nuances that existed between them and you. They cant know what made them uniquely them, you uniquely you, and your connection uniquely yours. It is these nuances of relationship that make this process both complex and sacred. And, this is as it should be.

It is a process that can’t be rushed, at times won’t find comfort, and that must be honoring of you and your important other or situation. Take your time and know in whatever way you need to make sense of your loss, it is ok. It was your connection – it belonged ( and belongs) uniquely to you.

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3 thoughts on “Grief’s unique Hold

  1. I sometimes think after a period of grievance there will be happiness. So when i’m sad I just make myself happy by thinking that happiness will arrive after this grief period. Your words are really great too. Thank you.

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