Loving an Addict; Author Unkown

“Sometimes love hurts especially when we see loved ones heading for danger. We call out to them, “Watch out!” We grab at them and try to bring them back to a safe place. But they don’t listen. They break loose, ignoring our warnings. And we must stand on safe ground and let them go to learn the hard way. And if our love is enduring, we stand with open arms to welcome them back when they finally decide-I am finished with danger-I must go home. And if our love is true, we do not hold onto “I told you so, but “I love you so”

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2 thoughts on “Loving an Addict; Author Unkown

  1. Sadly, my wife became addicted to alcohol, but I’m not sure addicts ever “come back” or would ever listen to “I told you so” in regard to risky behavior no matter how much you loved them. I tried for five years to get my wife to seek help. She never would. She finally was at end-stage alcoholism, losing control of her bodily functions. She had to be taken care of like an infant. And her pattern was to binge into oblivion where she couldn’t stand or walk, then go through DTs, then go buy more alcohol. There where numerous times she fell while intoxicated, injuring herself and requiring emergency treatment. It finally destroyed our relationship. It was crazy trying to work a high profile job, and take care of the household and her, all at the same time. It doesn’t matter if love is true or strong. At some point no amount of money, property, profession, or relationship, you name it, there is a point where nothing is worth staying with an addict. I never knew what I’d find when I came home from work. Walk away from it all to save your own sanity. I took one place setting for meals, books, clothes, and a futon and welcomed myself back to a non-dysfunctional life.

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    1. It is a very difficult experience. I am glad you found your way forward and are who and where you are today. It can be a long journey for both the addicted person and those who love them.


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