The Voice for Adoption Coalition: Raising awareness for adopted children and families.

One would believe that most families who adopt make this decision based on the belief they have something to offer a child who has lost his/her primary family. Just as one would believe; a birth parent wants to love and … Continue reading The Voice for Adoption Coalition: Raising awareness for adopted children and families.

Sleep and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

“If I stay awake I won’t have nightmares”. “If I keep busy, I won’t think about the bad things that have happened to me”. “I can’t close my eyes, because If I do something bad will happen”. “If I stay awake, I will see if anything is about to happen to me”. These are just a few of the thoughts that may resonate with a person (adult or child) who has been diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and whose sense of safety in the world has been shaken. There are as many cognitive combinations as there are individuals. … Continue reading Sleep and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

Protective strategies in the absence of safe attachment!

He is standing there. He is disconnected. He is hurting. He can’t allow anyone in. There has never been anyone who has felt capable. No one to see him. They have only truly seen his pain, his hurt, his behavior. The behaviors that have been so carefully and cleverly constructed to keep his truths. To keep him safe. He needs (even yearns) for someone to see him. The real him. The person underneath the pain, the hurt, and the behavior. The tiny boy, who once began (as we all do) in need of acceptance, love, protection, nurturing, and opportunities to … Continue reading Protective strategies in the absence of safe attachment!