Author: LaDonna Remy

I am a trauma and attachment therapist, who works in a private practice setting. My passion is in exploring and supporting exploration of the human condition. I love writing, reading, learning, exploring nature, and spending time in connection with those I love. My blog, Perspective on Trauma. shares thoughts on a variety of topics including social justice, emotional well-being, trauma and attachment, grief and loss, and moving forward. I am hopeful you will find something that speaks to you here. I welcome your thoughts and comments.
Defenses & Constructs8 Comments

The Complexity of Conditioned Expectation During the Holiday Season.

LaDonna Remy

Excerpt:
The holidays carry a strange kind of duality, one part magic, one part ache. We grow up absorbing images of effortless gatherings, cozy traditions, and families who somehow transform into their best selves the moment December arrives. Yet for many, real life tells a different story. Expectations brush up against lived experience, old family dynamics resurface, and the season can feel far more complex than anyone openly admits.

If you’ve ever wondered why joy and heaviness appear at the same table this time of year, or why you feel pressured to “perform” holiday cheer even when something inside you is tender, you’re not alone. This piece explores the emotional layers beneath the season, how conditioning, family systems, trauma history, and longing all interact, and how reclaiming the holidays on your own terms can create something far more honest and grounding than perfection ever could. Continue reading The Complexity of Conditioned Expectation During the Holiday Season.

Attachment & Relationship25 Comments

Grace in Personal Relationship: A Healing Balm for Separation.

LaDonna Remy

In a world that often feels fueled by outrage, grace has become a quiet act of resistance. It asks us to pause, to see the person beneath the opinion, to listen before defending, to stay open when separation feels easier. This reflection explores how grace, as Gabor Maté describes through the lens of “options,” offers us a way back to one another, and to ourselves. Continue reading Grace in Personal Relationship: A Healing Balm for Separation.

Self-Care, Spirituality21 Comments

The Freedom of Authenticity: Social Media, Mental Health, and the Quiet Wisdom of Sparrows.

LaDonna Remy

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”— J. Krishnamurti (Also attributed to Ralph Waldo Emerson) We are living in an age where Seeming self-expression has never been easier, … Continue reading The Freedom of Authenticity: Social Media, Mental Health, and the Quiet Wisdom of Sparrows.

Defenses & Constructs36 Comments

The Liar’s Paradox. The Implications of Dishonesty and Need for it’s Counterpart Honesty.

LaDonna Remy

This morning, I woke to the lyrics from Jelly Roll’s soulful song LIAR. It wasn’t playing anywhere in my space, but was seemingly on repeat in my brain. Specifically the soul reaching words, “I know you ain’t nothing but a … Continue reading The Liar’s Paradox. The Implications of Dishonesty and Need for it’s Counterpart Honesty.